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Making Assumptions: A Good Way to End up in Divorce Court

Sun, 19 May 2013 19:01:06 +0000

I heard a young bride say, shortly after taking her wedding vows, "now he can never leave me." The woman had actually been struck dumb by her wedding vows! But, I think a lot of folks are. Once those vows are made it is easy to assume that you are both on the same page as far as making the marriage work.

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When You Can't Depend on a Court Order

Wed, 15 May 2013 16:53:01 +0000

When going through the divorce process there is a lot of effort put into negotiating a divorce settlement that is fair to both parties. I learned from personal and professional experience that regardless of how fair a settlement is, there are those who feel a court order does not pertain to them.

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The Case of The Runaway Spouse

Sun, 12 May 2013 08:00:46 +0000

The day before my ex-husband left our marriage I would have bet everything we owned that our marriage was stable and would last. Good thing that bet didn't happen!

Over the years I've learned that being caught off guard by a spouse's desire to divorce is common place. Many, many people are left holding the emotional baggage after a spouse walks away or, in some cases runs away from the marriage.

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Why Is Jason Hoppy Still Wearing His Wedding Ring?

Fri, 10 May 2013 11:16:23 +0000

In an interview with People Magazine Bethenny Frankel expressed bewilderment over the fact that her soon to be ex, Jason Hoppy is still wearing his wedding band. "It's an interesting choice," she said. "And I don't understand it, about the ring."

I thought I'd take this opportunity to help Bethenny understand. He is wearing his ring because he is still emotionally attached. He is wearing his ring because it represents something that still holds meaning for him. Unlike you, he is still invested emotionally in his marriage to you.

He is still wearing his ring Bethenney because unlike those who make the decision to divorce, those that are left need time to process the end of a marriage and relationship that was of the upmost importance to them. That ring is his final connection to someone that was important to him...YOU.

For this reason I suggest you put serious thought into what you say about your marriage and your husband in the press, before you say it. Out of respect for him and your child, step back and do the right thing. Stop talking about how miserable you were with a man who, from all appearances was deeply in love with you. Stop belittling the father of your child. A child who will one day grow up and read what you are now saying.

Please, just stop!

Finding Divorce Support Online

Wed, 08 May 2013 15:15:22 +0000

When going through a divorce you not only need the support of a competent divorce attorney, you also need emotional support from friends and family. In some instances the most valuable support you can find is that offered by people who have or, are going through a divorce themselves.

Here at About Divorce Support you will find comprehensive information on the legal , financial and emotional aspects of divorce. We are aware of your need for more than information during the divorce process. You also need the support of others who have and are experiencing similar issues in their lives.

Therefore, not only do we offer helpful information, we offer a community of support. Our Divorce Support Forum is a convenient, non-threatening way to meet others with similar interests and find support during a stressful time in your life. We hope you will join our community and share you story.

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How to Gain Strength, Courage And Confidence During Divorce

Fri, 03 May 2013 14:31:40 +0000

Divorce means change, a HUGE change and along with that change comes fear. Fear that you won't be able to make it on your own. Fear that your children will suffer negative effects from the divorce. Fear that you won't be able to make it financially. Fear that you will live the rest of your life as a single person. Fear that you will fail in your next relationship.

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Parental Alienation Awareness Day: A Few Facts

Thu, 25 Apr 2013 12:03:45 +0000

1. According to Judith Ray, a licensed family therapist in Colorado Springs, an attempt to alienate a child from his/her parent is not a gender specific issue. Mothers and Fathers both engage in the behavior.

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Avoidant Personality Disorder: What Their Avoidance Can Mean For You

Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:37:38 +0000

Are you married to someone with avoidant personality disorder? I was and I spent a lot of time focused on what his avoidance of conflict and intimacy in our relationship was doing to him. It wasn't until after we divorced that I began to pay attention to what it had done to me.

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Children and Divorce: Not So Tough, Durable and Resilient?

Sat, 20 Apr 2013 18:50:50 +0000

I'm always puzzled by parents I talk to who believe their children are "resilient" and will bounce back and do well after a divorce. These are people who are barely holding it together due to marital problems but, for some reason they give their children more credit for being able to handle a negative situation than they give themselves.

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Mark Sanford: An Example of What Not To Do

Thu, 18 Apr 2013 10:18:09 +0000

Mark Sanford, the ex Governor of South Carolina who resigned in disgrace after an affair that took him to Argentina instead of the Appalachian Trail is in trouble in the family court.

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